Monday, January 30, 2017

Diaspora Mom 2

Thoughts of a diaspora-mom, woman of color, American, South Asian, Indian, maternal feminist & humanist---2

This entry is only about those immigrants that move as a result of choice, whether happy or sad. Immigration is so darn hard...it's not as simple as packing up & leaving...actually most leave without any belongings. Those that immigrate are very strong as they make a conscious choice to find something different, in some cases that is, peace... elsewhere... than their place of birth... and moving is so darn hard... going away from family, friends, jobs, homes, roots... it's so very scary for themselves & their children, especially they fear for their children....See immigrants are people who cut off something from their emotions, their belongings, their relationships, they commit hara-kiri, in the hope of something better... otherwise who would want to move from that known to one's heart, tear it to pieces, not like some of those pieces, and then re-teach oneself to love one's heart with all its complete, incomplete, liked and disliked pieces again? At times those who make the difficult decision to move are most misunderstood (even the ones who marry and move, or go abroad to study), especially by those who have not moved, in the country gone, or in the country of adoption...can't blame them either as their perspectives are from the other side of the window. Thus judging anyone other than oneself, those who move, or those who do not, is impossible, as no one has traveled in the shoes of the other...

The below poem of mine is a tribute to all those who do move... especially the first generation because they mostly see hardships of all kinds, on top of it some being older so not getting jobs suiting their qualifications, so taking a pay and position cut, or because some are single parents, or because some have a disability, or are poor, or gay, or some illness... but they still move, searching for the peace alluding them where they were born...in the hope that perhaps the and their children will have a better life than theirs...in search of various hopes, especially of peace, security and safety...

This poem was published in the April 6th 2017 issue of aaduna: http://aadunanotes.blogspot.com/2017/04/turner-nahal-darby-newton-and-rodgers.html
Also, I am always deeply moved by Ijeoma Umebinyuo's poem, Diaspora Blues. It hits deep inside and one can only shake one's head and agree!

Tuesday, January 24, 2017

Diaspora Mom 1


Thoughts of a diaspora-mom, woman of color, American, South Asian, Indian, maternal feminist & humanist---1
It’s when we travel/meet people different & diverse from us, that some of the titles/nomenclatures we read/or hear about when we were growing up, about other women, and their experiences, or terms and theoretical constructions employed in literature, history, sociology, anthropology, philosophy, economics, STEM disciplines, and add to these the events and movements of contemporary times, the most recent being the Women's March in DC and other cities, and also add to it our personal lives, stories, histories, experiences that we can just about begin to think about who we are... For what do we stand? What or for whom do we speak? What is it that represents us, or that we reoresent? And how much, and to what extent are we going to let things and others define us? At the end of it all, if we can begin to understand, discuss, learn, question, analyze, and most critically have conversations with ourselves, on how to improve ourselves within or without, whatever definitions we wish to hold ourselves, then perhaps there is hope for us…
And while I write this from the perspective of a woman, however, it is applicable to all, for as a historian by training, I visualize everything, especially history, from a tunnel aspect...our beginning point being A with Z being the end, which we don’t know when and how that will be. Thus if we are looking backwards, and try to connect the dots, there are some misses, some gains, sometimes one or the other being more….but if we can connect those dots well enough to keep the connections/processes going, it means we can have a reasonable level of understanding of ourselves and others, those in our life and not (public figures). Try it…in your mind…look backwards and connect the dots of your life. Also try to visualize the tunnel forward to “Z” and plan where you would like to be at the end…having done that then plan things backwards from “Z” to where you are currently. This will help you to plan a reasonable level of satisfied and peaceful life from now onward.
You can have sparkles or none, sufficient lights or blaring, darkness or dimness, smooth ground to walk upon or not, shouting or not….quiet, calm, laughter, freedom, breaths to take and those that take your breath away…it depends upon us…
And one final thought, if in our journeys, from and to, and back, if we have people in our life who make us feel warm, protected, safe, strong, and peaceful…that is the real sparkle in life…
Me, a diaspora, woman of color, American, South Asian, Indian, maternal feminist & humanist, on the journey to making my life better, thankful for my son, family and friends who make all of the above a possibility and reality…


Wednesday, January 4, 2017

The Privilege of Daily Meditation


Some food for thought....

What is meditation? In the traditional sense setting some time aside, in the quiet, ridding one's mind of any thoughts and just being calm, doing deep breathing, allows oneself to transcend to a place where one can feel the stresses of life soothing down.  However, doing meditation is not easy and not for everyone.  

I truly believe that doing the daily rituals of life as best as we can, is meditation.  It is a privilege of daily meditation to be able to distance oneself from the clutter, noise, irritations, pressures, impossibilities, and challenges of life and living, and still produce something every single day…that is meditation... a positive thought about oneself and others, loving, helping someone, going to office or any work (doctor, lawyer, engineer, financier, fashion designer etc..) and working well, spending quality time with our loved ones, teaching, mentoring, writing, cooking, exercising, bathing, reading, playing sports, visiting or having visitors over, enjoying watching a loved television program or movie, allowing our ears to listen to a favorite song, earning and shopping for survival and sometimes for special occasions, people watching, doing nothing, being able to sleep .... anything positive that can touch the soul, touches our body, mind and heart too, heals us and others who come in contact with us, and allows everyone to breathe deeply, taking in daily life.....that is meditation...the privilege of daily Meditation...

Best of luck to everyone in whichever meditation they chose to do...



Quote by: Frederick Philip Lenz, III, Ph.D., American Philosopher
Born: February 9, 1950, San Diego, CA
Died: April 12, 1998, Old Field, NY

Friday, October 7, 2016

Quote--Privilege not Right




Let's never forget the privileges God gives us every single day and moment that we might consider ordinary and instead keep waiting for something big!!  And let's also credit ourselves for the efforts we make toward accepting the privileges and dealing with their challenges, if any!
#privilege #notright #accept #acknowledge #creditourselves #improveourselves

Wednesday, October 5, 2016

Quote--Just Try To Be




Life is not easy, life is not simple.  Its complicated with numerous ups and downs.  Sometimes we smile and, sometimes, we cry.  Through all that, its important to try to "be"... not just only enjoy the moment, which is good, however, to know oneself, understand oneself and what is going on in our life.

#life #learn #understand #self 

Thursday, July 7, 2016

Quote--Inertia






#thought #thoughts #follow #instathought #poerty #poem #poemoninstagram #poetryofinstagram #follow #instagood #instapoem #writerscommunity #writersnetwork #writersconnection #inertia #bright #orange #spot #getmoving #life #living #challenges 

Thursday, June 23, 2016

Haiku: Open mind and see





In just one click, life's
diversities call us, look,
open mind, see, grasp

Restaurant, plants, lights, liquor, parking and hotel signs, bicycle-cab- other cars-cycles reflected in the rear view mirror of the car, flags, building, pavement, road…..

 #haiku #haikuoninstagram #haikuofinstagram #poerty #poem #poemoninstagram #poetryofinstagram #follow #instagood #instapoem #writerscommunity #writersnetwork #writersconnection #thought #thoughts #follow #instathought
#empire #nyc #newyorkcity #diversities #life #look #see #instahaiku #lights #flags 

@empiresteakhouse  your restaurant window with the lights and liquor bottles inspired me to take this shot and then saw the diversities reflected in the shot!  Hope to visit your restaurant one day!

https://www.instagram.com/empiresteakhouse/
http://www.empiresteakhousenyc.com/ 

Monday, June 20, 2016

Thoughts--Unreal, You Gone...




 #poerty #poem #poemoninstagram #poetryofinstagram #follow #instagood #instapoem #writerscommunity #writersnetwork #writersconnection #thought #thoughts #instathought #gone #missyou #breath #light #shimmer #eyes #memories 

Monday, June 13, 2016

#pride




It’s another sad, sad day in human collective life and history and will remain in our collective memories. Killing of almost 50 and injuring another 50 or more at Pulse, a gay club in Orlando, Florida once again makes it immediately imperative that in D&I conversations the need is to focus more on inclusion.  Are we a diverse country with diverse individuals residing here? Yes, and becoming more so each day.  Are we an inclusive country? Not always. We try. And this “trying” falls through the cracks when we have individuals who harbor prejudice and hate against those who are different from them, to an extent that they kill them. Micro or macro triggers, be it due to race, ethnicity, religion, sexual orientation, gender, age, physical attributes, marital status, children, education, socio-economic class, and veteran status among other myriad reasons that people employ to distinguish themselves from others, can lead as seen so many times, to the harboring of unconscious bias which turns into prejudice and then hate, and finally into violence.  And in the senseless violence that follows, the innocents lost do not even know the perpetrators or vice versa…have no personal or direct connection with them…strangers…and yet, they became the sad target of someone’s hate. 

Therefore, focusing on self-reflection, self-change, getting to know those who are different is what D&I training needs to focus upon. That might lead to an environment of tolerance and inclusion wherein those harboring hate might change their opinion and not end up killing others they don’t know, or know and don’t understand or appreciate. Be who you are and let others be who they are.  What difference does it make to you how different others are in any way, as long as they are not troubling you? Live and let live. Peace. 


#thoughtoftheday #thoughts #poetry #poem #poetryoninstagram #poemoninstagram #poemofinstagram #instagood #instapoem #instathought #follow #poetscommunity #writersconnection #writersnetwork #love #gaypride #pride #lgbt #rainbow #humans #different #orlando #pulse #florida 

Thursday, June 9, 2016

Haiku--Err




#haiku #haikufortheday #poem #smallpoem #err #makemistakes #itsokay #wearehuman #stoprepeating #brokenrecord #record #haikuoninstagram #life #humans #mistakes #chances 

Wednesday, June 1, 2016

Quote---Respect your children and they will be you friends




#quote #quoteoninstagram #quoteofinstagran #quoteoftheday #quotes #instaquote #instagood #followme #relationship #relationships  #child #children #myson #mysonmyblessing #grateful #blessings #friend #friends #childrenarefriends #respectyourchildren #gift #respect 

Quote---Gratefulness




#quote #quoteoninstagram #quoteofinstagran #quoteoftheday #quotes #instaquote #instagood #followme #bowl #relationship #relationships #grateful #blessings 

Sunday, May 29, 2016

Poem--Prejudice Blues




#poem #poetry #poemoninstagram #poetscorner #instagood #instapoem  #writersnetwork #writersconnection #followme #poets #authors #writers #life #love #heart #soul #animals #wisdom #narcissism #humans #poetrycommunity #poetsofinstagran   #immigrants #immigration #snakes #elephants #native #streets 

Wednesday, May 18, 2016

Poem--- A Feminist




Anyone can be a feminist...

#poem #poetry #poemoninstagram #poetscorner #instagood #instapoem  #writersnetwork #writersconnection #followme #poets #authors #writers #life #love #heart #soul #mind #feminist #feminism #man #woman #LGBT #anyone #humanist #humanisn 

Saturday, May 14, 2016

Poem---Hush




#poem #poetry #poemoninstagram #poetryoninstagram #instagood #followme #instapoem #prayer #hush #silence #write #poet #love #quiet

Wednesday, April 13, 2016

Quote--Far from God


#quote #quoteoninstagram 

Quote--Some memories stay with us




#quote #quoteoninstagram #memories #hugs #refusetoleave
Sometimes, some memories just don't go away...good and bad ones...they linger with us as fresh as the time they were real...and sometimes these bring tears and sometimes, smiles.  For our own sake, we need to keep the good memories with us and let the bad ones leave us...

Wednesday, March 30, 2016

Haiku--Don't place me on a pedestal!




People have to let othres be, especially in the closest of relationships. Sometimes, some people will place you on a pedestal, and give you too much importance because they need you, not necessarily love you in a healthy normal relationship.  We need to avoid being in such relationships.

#haiku #haikuonistagram #drum #drums #play #pedestal #need #yourneeds